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Dear Protesters and Supporters : I Love You. XOXO

This is tearing me up and I know I've a weak enough mind to end up with PTSD from this.  I'm done.  Mr Donald Trump won on the face of it.  I dislike his policies. I am not qualified to judge his personal life. 
Rulers come and rulers go.  There's good and evil in equal amounts.  There's a yin for every yang. 
Obama was not an angel.  Trump is not the devil.  Both men have their strengths and their weaknesses. 
But, they are men,  and as long as we live under a patriarchy, women's rights will be under attack. It is a mere matter of degree.
This is all getting too personal. 
We survived the Bushes,  we survived Hitler,  We survived Mussolini, We survived Trujillo,  We survived Stalin, We survived the British rule,  We survived Batista and Castro.  We are surviving Modi, We are surviving ISIS, We are surviving Putin. 
We survived Hiroshima.
I know there are countless others that we survived and we are surviving.  Maybe it's the media, maybe it's the fe…


My dear, dear girls and women, 

If someone puts out nude pictures of you on the Internet, please know that it DOES NOT MATTER. Posed nudes, Selfie nudes.... It doesn't matter. It's your right to feel comfortable in your body, and if you in some moments decided to embrace your self-confidence and took pictures of yourself, it DOES NOT make you a slut. Please do not let anyone tell you any different. 

 Do not self-harm or even think about ending your life, cause I promise you'll look back at this one day and understand how silly and inconsequential it was.

 Seek help if you are feeling even slightly upset by these things, including bullying, cyber bullying and blackmail ; you will get help and everything will be okay. EVERYTHING IS OKAY AND WILL BE OKAY.
Please don't seek unjust permanent solutions to temporary and extremely immaterial issues. 

 xoxoxo. Love.

PS: You can reach out to me personally if you prefer.…

It Hurts

The first time it made it onto TV news was in 2001. I was 10.
Two women were at a New Year party-parade celebration near my house (Mumbai) , and they were groped, molested, and raped by several men, while the others in the crowd merely looked on and did nothing, not one finger was lifted to help for a long time. It was a big, breaking news story that new year.

A majority of ministers, news channels, and general public blamed the woman. She was wearing a short, tight, glittery, sleeveless black dress. I heard it being said a million times by a million people that she had brought it upon herself -- why was she out that late in the night, why was she dressed 'obscenely', 'accused' her of having a drink or two ; even went to the extent of saying that she almost deserved it for being a 'loose woman'. This was a warning to all the girls in the country, toe the line, or you will be brutally punished.

The faces of some of the rapists were caught on camera, others' we…